Reality Bites

When I was a kid I thought I knew exactly how my life would pan out. I’d have a happy marriage, beautiful kids, a nice house and I’d be permanently skinny and tanned. Just like the TV ad families. When I got married just after I turned 18, I was sure that I was on-track…

UPDATED: Five Things I’ve Learned in the Fog (A Journey Through Depression)

It’s not comfortable writing about my own struggles; I’d rather write about someone else’s story. But the cloud has been hovering low of late – that fog which so many of us dread.

She is Strong in the Struggle

A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult. – Melinda Gates I’ve struggled to find my voice. I struggled because I didn’t think it was worth hearing – but I knew that that couldn’t be right, so I struggled, struggled until…

Embracing Flaws

“You are enough. A thousand times enough.” – Atticus If I was to write a list of my flaws, it would look something like this: Too shy Too task focused Too needy Not fit enough Too serious Not intellectual enough Too analytical Terrible at telling jokes (awkward silence) When did I ever get the idea…

Learning to hear from God

Having a conversation with God involves more than just talking. It involves listening and the ability to understand His voice, just like we would if we were talking to another person. It’s an informal interchange of thoughts and information. Interesting, that we’d be able to do this – casually interchange thoughts and information – with…

Our Story?

Let’s talk about this. Is it ok to just share the highlights? Or can we ditch the highlights reel for real? What’s the balance and how do you share the story of us?

Stories: thoughts on sharing & listening

“It takes courage to share your story,” Linda says. “It’s something that should be handled with wisdom and sensitivity. In my observation, our stories are best shared progressively. Unless there has been a lot of counselling/therapy type work beforehand, most people are processing their story as they share it.

Vulnerability = generosity

“The flourishing of the vulnerable depends on the vulnerability of the flourishing.”

— Andy Crouch


Word for 2018: COMMUNICATION With God and with you guys, the readers. Erwin McManus says…. “The only way you’re going to get to be a good writer is by being willing to be a bad writer. You cannot write a good sentence if you do not write a bad sentence. In fact, you have to write a…

How to (intentionally) care for a grieving friend

true friends are burning stars they shine brightest on those darkest nights – atticus Grief n. keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret. It’s hard watching someone grieve. We can feel helpless, unable to take away their pain and suffering. But let me encourage you that this is a…